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One of my all time favorite movies is Taken. It’s a great action movie starring Liam Neeson as a retired CIA black-ops agent whose daughter is kidnapped while vacationing in Paris. The best part of the movie is when Dad tries to convince the kidnappers to let his daughter go:
I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you are looking for ransom, I can tell you I don't have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you let my daughter go now, that'll be the end of it. I will not look for you, I will not pursue you. But if you don't, I will look for you, I will find you, and I will kill you.
And after a long pause, the kidnapper utters only two words in response: “Good luck.”
I love that movie! Actually, when it first came out, if I found out that one of my guy friends hadn’t seen the movie, I would drag him instantly to a nearby theatre. I must have seen the movie three times in the first week.
At first, I couldn’t exactly articulate why I was obsessed with the movie. But I now get it. Something deep in my heart was triggered. As a father of three amazing daughters, I realized that the movie stirred that part of me that would go to the very gates of hell to rescue one of my girls. Although I’ve never acquired a particular set of fighting skills like Liam Neeson’s character, I do have a daddy’s heart. And never mess with a father’s girl!
One of the things that breaks my heart as a father is the reality that I can’t always protect my girls. We live in a fallen world. We have an adversary who wants to “kill, steal and destroy” (John 10:10). He desperately tries to “take” something from my girls every day. We live in a world that is full of pain and heartache. Like the young boy said in the movie August Rush, “Sometimes the world tries to knock it out of you.” What is Satan trying to take and the world trying to knock out of you? One thing for sure is your worth and value.
I wish there was a way that my girls could always see themselves through my eyes. If only my eldest daughter Taylor (18) could have seen my face when the doctor told me that I was going to have a daughter. I wish my Maddy (15) could know the absolute joy I felt when I held her in my arms for the first time. If Annie, my 5-year-old adopted daughter from China, could only have been there when I saw her photo for the first time.
I hate that there are moments every day that my girls are left wondering about their incredible value. It breaks my heart that a poor grade, an angry driver, a school bully, a frustrated teacher, a critical boss, a failed test, a sarcastic friend or an irritable parent can make my girls feel worthless. So, what can my daughters do to counteract these negative moments, and what can I do to help them?
Most of us have been told our entire life to memorize Bible verses. “Read your Bible and memorize the verses!” I don’t know about you, but growing up in a Christian home, I learned at a young age that memorizing Scripture was just part of "going through the motions" as a Christian.
It took me a long time to finally understand the importance of these verses. I realized there is a huge difference between memorizing Scripture and writing God’s very words on my heart. I now get why King Solomon wrote, “My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. Let them not escape from your sight; keep them within your heart. For they are life to those who find them, and healing to all their flesh.” (Proverbs 4:20-22).
Satan is the author of lies. He wants my daughters to believe that they are worthless. He uses their daily experiences to convince them that they have no value, that they are unloved, defective, unlovable, rejected or abandoned.
The good news is that my girls don’t need a black-ops expert like Liam Neeson’s character. Actually, they don’t need me either. What they really need is their Heavenly Father’s healing words deep in their heart.
The way to fight Satan’s lies and the world’s negative messages is to find Bible verses that speak directly against the lie or painful message. Satan will level a specific attack against us, with explicit lies and messages. We must use truth as our counterattack. This is the best way to heal the wounds written on our heart. This is why we memorize verses, meditate on them and continuously recite their power. Keep them within your heart. For they are life to those who find them, and healing to all their flesh!
I so wish my daughters could always remember what God has said that is true about their worth and value:
For you were made in my image. (Gen 1:27)
I chose you when I planned creation. (Eph 1:11-12)
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Ps 139:14)
I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance … (Eph 1:18)
For you are my treasured possession. (Ex 19:5)
I think the last two verses are some of the most powerful ones in the Bible. It’s amazing to me that Christ (you know, the Son of God!) believes that my daughters are the riches of His “glorious inheritance.” Wow! But nothing compares to the God of this universe saying that my girls are His “treasured possession.” Unbelievable!
Don’t allow Satan to use his lies to “take” what’s true about you. Write God’s truth on the tablet of your heart. Teach your family to do the same. And you will know the truth and the truth will set your heart free!
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Both TAKEN and Taken 2 were both great movies! I have a daughter and I would do everything to protect her.
Couragous is an awesome movie that every man should see!
God's word says He'll turn the fathers' hearts toward their children. Praise God He's done that in my life. If a mans heart is'nt towards his family, it will turn towards the empty 'fluff' of this world and the consequences of that are clearly evident in society today!
We raised our kids in a very strong, Christ centered home. We homeschooled and they had Bible everyday. We had great communication and a warm home.
Our 19 year old was going to Baker College in Detroit, MI and was a nanny to an attorney's family. She went to a Bible study one night, taught by a pervert unbeknownst to her. The attorney's wife called me one morning and told me my daughter was coming home at 3am from this Bible study and it appeared she was drugged. We questioned her and she said, "Mom, I just went to the Bible study. I don't know why I feel this way." The next thing we knew, our daughter was TAKEN! Her ice tea at the Bible study had been being laced with Rufees and Ectasy. We phoned her pastor at the church in W Bloomfield, MI and his exact words were, "Your daughter is in a very dangerous situation, but your daughter's life is NOT in danger." It took us 18 months to kidnap our daughter back after she'd been TAKEN and sold into human trafficking. She didn't get over the drug addiction and is now married to a man that does drugs and beats her senseless. I called the pastor back and suggested to him, "The next time a parent calls concerned, you'd better figure out how to intercede and come to the aid." I believe the church people knew this man was mafia and they were afraid of him.
We still believe that our daughter is in the hands of God, but she wasn't taken because of living a wild life, rebelling, .... she was TAKEN thinking she was serving her Lord and getting involved in a Young Adult Bible study. The church should have been more available with options instead of condone this man to lead one under the auspice of church! So, parents, if your daughter isn't married yet, she's under your umbrella - at least through college. We tried to be involved and talked with her several times, but as I travel and speak to women and girls, I tell them, "If the Bible study isn't IN THE CHURCH, and not taught by a woman - DO NOT ATTEND!" Am I too hard on this stipulation - after going through what we went through - ABSOLUTELY NOT! Satan was after our daughter because she was busy serving the Lord and trying to get to know her Savior better. No one expects to have their ice tea drugged while at a Bible study. One day she'll be back walking with the Lord. We stand on the Word of God and hold to His promises!
Dear Anonymous Mom of Daughter Above,
Please know that you are not standing alone in prayer for your daughter, I will be praying along with you.
You are correct, you are not too hard and cannot be careful enough. Satan is actively prowling this world like a lion, seeking to destroy God's people.
Stand tough on the Word of God- He will bring your family through this.
Thank you for sharing this, I am certain it will help prevent this from happening to some unsuspecting young women!
I thought I was unshockable! Even our churches or church groups are not "safe" anymore. How sad but Satan will not have the last say on this. If you could get your daughter into a solid, well documented, Christian rehab when she hits bottom, and she will hit bottom eventually, she will be transformed. I have seen it happen. I will join in praying for your daughter but I certainly would make sure that church does not get off the hook. We are far to careless about many things in our churches these days. Churches need to do background checks on anyone working with children, teens, or young adults and there should always be mature couples involved also when teens or young adults are involved. Satan is out to destroy the Body of believers and especially the young.