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Did you ever notice we spend most of our lives answering questions? Next time you think of it keep track of how many questions you try to answer in a 24 hour period of time. One study in the UK found that mothers get asked about 300 questions a day - crazy!
Not only are we trying to answer the big questions of life: “Who am I?” “What is my purpose in life?” But we are constantly answering questions like; “Where are we having lunch? Burgers or Burritos?” or “Dad, where do babies come from?”
Most of society behaves as if we believe that the most important skills are to have the right answers. Too often we overlook an obvious fact: finding the right answer is impossible unless we have asked the right question. The power of a question has multiple purposes:
• It can reveal the inner thoughts and feelings of a person answering the question• It allows for ownership of an issue• It teaches responsibility.• It creates teachable moments and lifelong learning.• It provides opportunities to process truth and dispel lies.
Throughout scripture we see the use of questions by our Heavenly Father and through His son Jesus. This is not an exhaustive list by any means but I pray these questions posed in Scripture will draw you closer to your Heavenly Father.
“And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?” (Matthew 6:27)
“Do you believe that I am able to do this?” (Matthew 9:28)
“Why did you doubt?” (Matt 14:31)
“Why are you thinking such things in your heart?” (Mark 2:8)
“If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest?” (Luke 12:26)
“You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth?” (Galations 5:7)
One of the most amazing scenes captured in Scripture is found in John 21. We see this intimate scene between our Risen Lord and Peter. Jesus asks Peter a difficult question, not just once but three times; “Do you love me?” (John 21:16) What I love about this interaction is that this question was not asked of Peter to shame him. Peter was probably already struggling with shame since he denied Christ three times. Jesus was restoring Peter. He was redeeming His story and that is what Jesus is doing for all of us. Jesus doesn’t ask the difficult questions of us to drive us away. He is asking the difficult questions to draw us closer to Him out of unconditional love and grace.
From a fellow father asking and answering the tough questions …
Roy Baldwin (@baldwin_roy) is a contributor for Dad Matters and the Director of Parenting & Youth at Focus on the Family.
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